大家觉得这位美女和他男友会如何？

SHASHA :
do u think ppl will value their new partners more after divorce?
Ali :
comparing with ex?
SHASHA :
yea
Ali :
yes in general, but hard to tell in long-term
SHASHA :
true
Ali :
why are you asking that?
SHASHA :
my bf divorced once
Ali :
how long had he been married?
SHASHA :
frankly, i still got mixed feeling 4 that, and i cant let my parents know
6 months
Ali :
what was the reason for the divorce?
too short to be remarkable for a man
you should ignore that
SHASHA :
they'd been together for 2 years b4 marriage
Ali :
what was the reason for the divorce?
SHASHA :
well, it was just small row at the beginning
Ali :
did not get it
SHASHA :
small things like neither of them could do housework
Ali :
oh, first time to hear that
SHASHA :
the girl couldnt cook, and he wanted to eat home-made food
Ali :
can he cook?
SHASHA :
actually, my bf is a bit self-centred.
no
he loves to have everything under his control.
not easy 4 him to take others' advice.
Ali :
you need to find a good way to change him, otherwise will be very hard for you
SHASHA :
confident, but a bit over-confident sometimes
i know
Ali :
what is his career and role? sounds like a big boss
SHASHA :
thats why i still got the mixed feeling, not coz of the divorce, but his characteristics
Ali :
right
SHASHA :
he's the GM of the marketing division of an online gaming company
Ali :
so either you change urself or he change
otherwise you two eventually won't work out
are you willing to change urself for him?
SHASHA :
honestly, im not sure.
Ali :
the underline question is: do u love him that much
SHASHA :
i kept asking myself the question...
Ali :
who called divorce? he or she?
SHASHA :
she
he told me that she said he was too selfish then they divorced
Ali :
if you do not change him or change urself, u may repeat her road
my advice is that: u should keep with him, but think urself is still strongly available
the chance of working out with him in a long-term could be slim - u may want to ask a professional counselor
SHASHA :
i can tell that he's changed himself after the divorce, but im not sure if this could last.
after all, ppl's characteristics wont change easily.
Ali :
let's do two tests: 1) ask him to learn to cook a dish that u like
is he willing to do that?
SHASHA :
havnt asked that b4
Ali :
try that, but put it in an equal way:
you also cook a dish that he like the most
SHASHA :
he's kinda can do all other housework except cooking, he can clean the house, do the laundry, etc. but just not cooking
Ali :
if failed, try another one: choose a place that you want to go
he does not like to go
SHASHA :
hehe, it could b our kitchen。
Ali :
i mean a place such as Tibet
SHASHA :
yea, i know, just kidding
Ali :
i do not want to go there, but if i love a girl and she wants to go, i will go there once for her
SHASHA :
i got ur point
Ali :
if he fails all the tests, you have to search another bf quietly
you are not the type who can sacrify urself for a guy - that was my intuition
SHASHA :
hehe, u r rite about me.
Ali :
well, the problem is that finding a good guy is so hard
he is good on paper, and also by looking
SHASHA :
u know that i cant help thinking the word u said 2 me last time: the more mature u r, the more difficult u commit to a relationship
Ali :
but you need to make a sharp judgment call for him and you
do not repeat his ex route
SHASHA :
i know
Ali :
either you think that this man is the one you can live with for this life, or search for the right one
there is no choice between the two
am i right?
SHASHA :
u r rite, and the longer it takes me to make the choice, the more i will suffer
Ali :
well, just follow ur heart
SHASHA :
thx, Ali. its nice that i can talk 2 someone about it.
Ali :
my pleasure, bother me any time, you are one of the best girls i saw in shanghai
SHASHA :
will do, thx.

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• 啊里，请给那女的换个名字，她和本老太太名字太接近，容易引起误会。 -SHA66- ♀ (0 bytes) () 12/24/2009 postreply 07:48:49

• 莎妹早！误会也没关系：） -阿里- ♂ (0 bytes) () 12/24/2009 postreply 07:49:57

• 啊里是上海美女感情咨询中心，名声很大。。。 -阿里- ♂ (0 bytes) () 12/24/2009 postreply 07:52:53