非常欣赏他对于晕海ex出轨的评论。

‘Sharing the same bed is part of marriage. It’s a violation of commitment when you came up with excuses not to share and he allowed it. His infidelity was the result of lack of commitment and physical attachment, not the cause of it, although I agree that he should have ended it with you before moving on, so he got the order reversed and that’s hurtful’
首先作为一个lz的追求者，能做出这样客观深刻的评论是很不易的。
以前曾听人说过，不要用sex作为夫妻矛盾的惩罚。这也是一种变相的道歉方式。当时不太能理解，觉得男人伤了女人的心，女人怎么还会有心情sex?后来慢慢懂了，加上今天看到的这个。两个人发生矛盾，sex虽然不是唯一的却是一个很好的缓解方式。缓解了双发的压力，也有了只可意会不可言传的情感交流，两人重新有了某种默契，接下来再继续就发生过的矛盾设法和解，是一个好办法。而晕海和他的ex很多方面的交流都已经早早就没有了。就像这位男士说的，’It seems like the communication broke down early in your marriage but none of you did anything about it. Instead you let the issues drift or didn’t want to face them until it exploded one day. It could be personality, pride or the love was not strong enough in the first place.’

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• nod, that's on point! -飞~- ♀ (0 bytes) () 03/21/2009 postreply 00:59:20