关于吵架，建议大家读一本书，

why marriages succeed or fail, by Dr. John Gottman

It help you find your marriage type, and what is the best way to deal with your spouse in that type of marriage. Fighting is certainly not anything positive, but have your opinion heard and sometimes arguments are necessary. This book will help you understand why some couple who never fight suddenly divorce, why couples who fight all the time stay together. enjoy.