你真是科学家，哈哈，

小孩要看多大了，随着年龄的增长，应该给他们越来越多的选择余地。。

When kids get upset, do not say : you should not be upset, but say : I can see why you are...., kids are more likely to get over when you treat them that way. I just read a book about it. 这个和主见无关，只是继续我们前面的讨论。因为你的问题让我想起来了。