你有自己的观点，这无可厚非，

我说得自以为是 是对别人的生活指指点点，好了，不多说了。：）
第二点我也是听来的，When you said/do something and that something hurt someone's feeling, it does not matter if you intended to hurt or not, the fact is someone's feeling is hurt. Your being not intentional has nothing to do with that fact. And if something is done intentionally, of cause you are responsible even if you feel that is not a big deal, because it is only not a big deal to you, not other person. The other person is allowed to be different from you.