common law 诚意

我今年39岁, 未婚. 博士学位. 与某男士交往5年. 在此之前没有恋爱经历.

父母高知, 家教甚严.

我与该男士在一起, 波折很多. 曾经堕过三次胎. 个中故事不堪回首.

现在我没有工作, 去向待定. 我们不在一个城市, 但我大多数时间都待在他所在的城市照顾他的生活. 我的所有生活费用全部由自己负担. 圣诞节, 新年, 春节也没有收到他的礼物. 感觉很受伤. 以前我会提前给他买好礼物, 今年等了等, 和往年一样, 我还是什么礼物也没有. 所以今年我也就彻底省了. 省钱, 省心, 省期待.

和父母讲好今年夏天接他们来这里玩, 之前从未透露过该男士和我之间的关系. 不想让他们担心.

他离过婚. 现在他想和我生个孩子. 我提出想结婚, 因为前面三次经历, 我不想孩子是未婚先孕. 他不同意和我结婚, 先是说水到渠成, 后来又说只愿意 “就这样过日子, 这里的人都是common law.

he only wants common law. He said lots of people in North America live like this. Eventually he would marry me. I told him I didn't want to disappoint my family so much. He insisted that he divorced once and didn't want to get into another marriage too soon. He needed a break. I told him I have waited him for five years to get ready.

At the beginning of our relationship, he told we're not going to have a wedding, neither any fancy pictures. I accepted these conditions, and now he went further.

I do not have a job now. Staying with him in one city means "less opportunity" I have to say. He already told me that he wouldn't leave this city if I found job somewhere else.

So, my question here, do you think I should go further with him?

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• leave him... -一根阳线- ♂ (16 bytes) () 02/02/2009 postreply 22:06:48

• 我总是担心离开他, 他会孤独. -谁愿意- ♀ (50 bytes) () 02/03/2009 postreply 07:54:34

• no.他应该“非诚勿扰”。 -那一朵紫花- ♀ (123 bytes) () 02/02/2009 postreply 22:20:43

• 男人有那么复杂吗? -贫农:- ♂ (158 bytes) () 02/03/2009 postreply 04:56:53

• 不是针对男人，男人女人都有这样的。 -那一朵紫花- ♀ (0 bytes) () 02/03/2009 postreply 09:39:22

• 你早该离开他了 -lavendar~- ♀ (124 bytes) () 02/03/2009 postreply 05:27:42

• OMG, -好看？- ♀ (85 bytes) () 02/03/2009 postreply 06:35:07

• 对不起，是跟LZ的。 -好看？- ♀ (0 bytes) () 02/03/2009 postreply 06:35:56

• 补充一个生活片段 -谁愿意- ♀ (608 bytes) () 02/03/2009 postreply 06:11:05

• 那我还是劝你离开吧... -贫农:- ♂ (23 bytes) () 02/03/2009 postreply 06:16:51

• 不过我知道你很可能离不开他 -贫农:- ♂ (81 bytes) () 02/03/2009 postreply 06:43:20

• 狗咬狗，一嘴毛！ -小小迷糊虫- ♀ (0 bytes) () 02/03/2009 postreply 18:08:35

• ask yourself, -好看？- ♀ (131 bytes) () 02/03/2009 postreply 06:39:36

• I recommend a book to you: -1990- ♀ (122 bytes) () 02/03/2009 postreply 06:58:13

• 回复：common law 诚意 -谁愿意- ♀ (278 bytes) () 02/03/2009 postreply 07:38:08

• 你心里应该很明白的，但是你在deny自己的判断。 -好看？- ♀ (0 bytes) () 02/03/2009 postreply 07:47:00

• 我真是不想说： 谁愿意？ 除了你愿意.. -无银- ♀ (216 bytes) () 02/03/2009 postreply 07:56:43

• true -谁愿意- ♀ (567 bytes) () 02/03/2009 postreply 10:23:01

• 有三个观点。 -仅一位- ♂ (233 bytes) () 02/03/2009 postreply 08:05:34

• 是啊, 旁观者觉得不合情理. 自轻, 人才以为贱. -谁愿意- ♀ (101 bytes) () 02/03/2009 postreply 10:33:19

• 看到第三行就不想再往下看了。 -aqua_kid- ♀ (0 bytes) () 02/03/2009 postreply 11:12:44

• 我的感觉是：１。 你先找份工作。不知你哪里来那么多钱不工作 -fpxjz- ♀ (391 bytes) () 02/03/2009 postreply 12:06:27