小既看过《call me by your name》吗？其中有段话说的特别好，共勉

“I may have come close, but I never had what you had. Something always held me back or stood in the way. How you live your life is your business. But remember, our hearts and our bodies are given to us only once. Most of us can’t help but live as though we’ve got two lives to live, one is the mockup, the other the finished version, and then there are all those versions in between. But there’s only one, and before you 

know it, your heart is worn out, and, as for your body, there comes a point when no one looks at it, much less wants to come near it.” - Novel 《Call me by your name》

 

 

我们只能拥有一次我们的身体和心灵。但很多人都期望尽可能的多拥有，一个是想象的生活，一个是现实的版本，还有的就是介于两者之间.....但无论怎样选择，我们终究只有一个人生，而在我们明白这个道理之前，我们的心就已经苍老了。至于身体，总有一天没有人愿意再看到，没有人愿意再靠近。现在我感到遗憾，我不羡慕痛苦本身，但我羡慕你会痛。