关于博文和原著的几点说明
迄今为止,这个博客发布的所有文章的内容都来自一部近70万字的回忆录《生于1950》 (吕旭著, Brain Book & Music 版,2025)的有关章节。
这是经原著作者(版权拥有者)赞同的,而建立这个博客就是为了有机会和网友一起阅读这部书。
今后会以同样方式继续发表博文。
这些博文不是原著连载,是节选,会略掉一些章节,排列顺序也会不尽相同。
以下是原著(Bornin1950)的目录和《编者的话》。
生于1950 (一) 目录
第一章 童年童话
1、西民生街219号................................................................................................ 13
2、认识妈妈............................................................................................................ 16
3、去幼儿园............................................................................................................ 18
4、奶奶睡了............................................................................................................ 22
5、待学时光............................................................................................................ 25
6、大姨妈妈(之一)............................................................................................ 33
7、大姨妈妈(之二)............................................................................................ 33
8、三人世界............................................................................................................ 41
(1)两个“管家”........................................................................................ 41
(2)票证往事................................................................................................ 42
(3)走进“黑市”........................................................................................ 44
(4)享受劳动................................................................................................ 46
9、弟弟逃园............................................................................................................ 49
10、站一小学.......................................................................................................... 51
(1)跃进年代................................................................................................ 51
(2)校园趣事................................................................................................ 55
(3)读书笔记................................................................................................ 57
(4)老师说谎................................................................................................ 59
11、站二小学.......................................................................................................... 61
12、儿时伙伴.......................................................................................................... 66
(1)点滴芬芳——儿时伙伴王淑芳.......................................................... 66
(2)景色美丽——儿时伙伴景蓬.............................................................. 67
(3)纯情时光——儿时伙伴王纯英.......................................................... 72
第二章 少年迷茫............................................................................................................. 76
1、升学考试............................................................................................................ 76
2、一只孤雁............................................................................................................ 79
3、叛逆学生............................................................................................................. 81
4、风雨骤来............................................................................................................. 85
5、当保皇派............................................................................................................. 89
6、到北京去............................................................................................................ 93
7、家庭出身............................................................................................................ 96
8、“好”“糟”的年....................................................................................................... 99
9、我绝食了.......................................................................................................... 103
10、“放开我,妈妈”....................................................................................... 111
11、血色黄昏........................................................................................................ 115
12、少年朋友........................................................................................................ 121
(1)友情降临——朋友刘临...................................................................... 121
(2)萍水相逢——朋友刘萍...................................................................... 123
(3)质本洁来——朋友李慧洁.................................................................. 127
(4)“国立文科”——朋友国丽文......................................................... 132
(5)力利永闯——朋友柳力利.................................................................. 135
(6)同桌的她——朋友石宝瑛.................................................................. 138
第三章 青春无歌............................................................................................................ 141
1、到农村去......................................................................................''.................... 141
2、条石沟人............................................................................................................ 142
3、“一等工分”.................................................................................................... 147
4、“农村调查”..................................................................................................... 150
5、山村亲人............................................................................................................. 156
6、“非法行医”.................................................................................................... 159
7、拣金农民............................................................................................................ 163
8、公社见闻............................................................................................................ 165
9、护校生活............................................................................................................ 168
(1)与兵为伍.............................................................................................. 168
(2)朋友刘伟.............................................................................................. 172
10、工厂一隅........................................................................................................ 174
11、护士经历........................................................................................................ 177
12、记忆深处........................................................................................................ 181
第四章 岁月蹉跎.......................................................................................................... 188
1、如烟往事.......................................................................................................... 188
(1)一念之差.............................................................................................. 188
(2)矛盾丛生.............................................................................................. 191
(3)走出围城.............................................................................................. 193
(4)找回自己.............................................................................................. 196
2、单亲家庭.......................................................................................................... 199
(1)地震棚里.............................................................................................. 199
(2)爱的教育.............................................................................................. 201
(3)崎岖旅途.............................................................................................. 203
(4)早熟少年.............................................................................................. 205
(5)一起成长.............................................................................................. 214
(6)亦师亦友.............................................................................................. 217
3、旧地重游.......................................................................................................... 236
4、我心依旧.......................................................................................................... 238
5、希望未泯.......................................................................................................... 242
6、办公室里.......................................................................................................... 251
(1)开心时刻.............................................................................................. 251
(2)非我所愿.............................................................................................. 252
(3)知此知彼.............................................................................................. 253
(4)一孔之见.............................................................................................. 254
7、疯狂学习.......................................................................................................... 259
8、何去何从.......................................................................................................... 265
9、坎坷之路.......................................................................................................... 270
(1)师恩难忘.............................................................................................. 270
(2)同事真情.............................................................................................. 272
(3)学友兄长.............................................................................................. 275
(4)亲情友情.............................................................................................. 276
10、四十还惑........................................................................................................ 281
11、我的选择........................................................................................................ 286
12、肝胆相照........................................................................................................ 289
(1)冰清玉洁——朋友赵冰...................................................................... 289
(2)一日三秋——朋友常秋颖.................................................................. 293
第五章 人生几何........................................................................................................... 298
1、这是真的.......................................................................................................... 298
2、梦醒时分.......................................................................................................... 306
(1)蓦然回首.............................................................................................. 306
(2)重游书海.............................................................................................. 307
3、死去活来.......................................................................................................... 308
4、儿子的家.......................................................................................................... 311
(1)母子同心.............................................................................................. 311
(2)婆媳共情.............................................................................................. 312
(3)隔代知音.............................................................................................. 314
(4)生活点滴.............................................................................................. 315
5、多事之秋.......................................................................................................... 317
6、生离死别.......................................................................................................... 319
(1)一介书生.............................................................................................. 319
(2)命运多舛.............................................................................................. 320
(3)心有灵犀.............................................................................................. 322
(4)灵魂陪伴.............................................................................................. 323
7、朋友再见.......................................................................................................... 341
8、雪中送炭.......................................................................................................... 345
9、相逢是缘.......................................................................................................... 357
(1)忘年挚交 (朋友才质贞)..................................................................... 357
(2)涓涓细流(朋友王娟)...................................................................... 361
(3)光照我心(朋友敖志光).................................................................. 366
10、同学之情........................................................................................................ 371
(1)难忘聚会.............................................................................................. 371
(2)好友同行…………………..............…………………………………………...377
11、至暗时刻........................................................................................................ 381
(1)厄訉频频.............................................................................................. 381
(2)别离开我.............................................................................................. 383
(3)大成别走.............................................................................................. 386
(4)一见永别.............................................................................................. 391
12、这世界,我来过............................................................................................ 394
(1)感谢生命.............................................................................................. 394
(2)感谢生活.............................................................................................. 395
(3)感恩遇见.............................................................................................. 395
(4)余生无求............................................................................................. 402
照片 ………..…………………………………………………….............….. 403
生于1950 (二) 目录
第一章 别样妈妈
1 一颗童心……………………………………………………………….………11
2 一双巧手……………………………………………………………………….14
3 讲台之上……………………………………………………………………….18
4 万书丛中……………………………………………………………………….22
5 行医乡下……………………………………………………………………….25
6 身陷囹圄……………………………………………………………………….30
7 率真女人……………………………………………………………………….33
8 全能主妇……………………………………………………………………….38
9 慈爱母亲………………………………………………………………………43
10 良师益友……………………………………………………………………….49
11 坚强一生……………………………………………………………………….54
12 奉献一生…………………………………………………………………………57
第二章 严父慈父
1 快乐爸爸……………………………………………………………………….60
2 忧郁爸爸……………………………………………………………………….65
3 糊涂爸爸……………………………………………………………………….68
4 清醒爸爸……………………………………………………………………….70
5 “吝啬”爸爸……………………………………………………………………..73
6 慷慨爸爸……………………………………………………………………….75
7 温情爸爸……………………………………………………………………….78
8 严厉爸爸……………………………………………………………………….81
9 随和爸爸……………………………………………………………………….83
10 固执爸爸……………………………………………………………………….87
11 认真做事……………………………………………………………………….89
12 清白做人……………………………………………………………………….93
第三章 我的一家
1 独立女性………………………………………………………………………..97
2 乡村青年……………………………………………………………………….101
3 校园恋情……………………………………………………………………….108
4 盛京医大……………………………………………………………………....111
5 崇慈医院……………………………………………………………………….117
6 痛失爱子……………………………………………………………………….123
7 风雨同行……………………………………………………………………….128
8 灵魂伴侣……………………………………………………………………….134
9 亲朋好友……………………………………………………………………….140
(1)长兄如父………………………………………………………………140
(2)手足兄弟………………………………………………………………144
(3)兄友弟恭………………………………………………………………149
(4)姐妹情深………………………………………………………………152
(5)难兄难弟………………………………………………………………158
(6)学姐学妹………………………………………………………………161
10 左邻右舍……………………………………………………………………....167
(1)“马家江山”………………………………………………….…….167
(2)于氏豆坊………………………………………………………………169
(3)李洪佚事…...…………………………………………………..……..172
(4)梁下雨燕………………………………………………………..……..174
(5)小白楼内…………………………………………………………..…..175
(6)农家院里 ................................................................................178
11 最爱的家 ...........................................................................................182
(1)歌声环绕 .................................................................................182
(2)多彩假日 .................................................................................186
(3)柴米油盐 .................................................................................192
(4)衣食住行 .................................................................................197
(5)饭桌论坛 .................................................................................201
(6)黑白照片 .................................................................................204
(7)书遭厄运 .................................................................................208
(8)爱的港湾 .................................................................................211
12 生死相依 ............................................................................................216
第四章 告别父母
1 惊恐时刻 ................................................................................................222
2 护理记事 ................................................................................................224
3 痛失妈妈 ................................................................................................228
4 母爱无涯 ................................................................................................230
5 守护爸爸 ................................................................................................234
6 父爱如山 ................................................................................................237
7 情义无价 ................................................................................................241
8 真情永存 ................................................................................................246
9 父母恩深 ................................................................................................250
10 情归大海 ................................................................................................252
11 心中的碑 ................................................................................................255
12 寄往天堂 ................................................................................................257
(1)送别妈妈 ....................................................................................257
(2)想念妈妈 ....................................................................................259
(3)梦中相见 ....................................................................................259
(4)献给父母 ....................................................................................260
(5)圣诞歌声 ....................................................................................261
(6)佳节思亲 .....................................................................................262
第五章 弟弟的路 ................................................................................................267
1 坎坷年华 ................................................................................................267
2 篮球之缘 ................................................................................................269
3 十年寻梦 .................................................................................................270
4 艰难抉择 ................................................................................................271
5 路在何方 ................................................................................................272
6 美漂30年 ................................................................................................273
第六章 终生知已
1 首任老师 .................................................................................................275
2 淘气大王 .................................................................................................279
3 如影随形 .................................................................................................283
4 相伴读书 .................................................................................................287
5 两个傻瓜 .................................................................................................292
6 飘洋过海 .................................................................................................295
(1)痴心不改 ....................................................................................295
(2)大洋彼岸 ....................................................................................300
(3)各自西东 ....................................................................................304
7 异乡异客 .................................................................................................306
(1)学会读书----------------------------------.-------------306
(2)美国导师 ......................................................................................307
(3)参加派对 ......................................................................................311
(4)有惊有险 ......................................................................................312
8 胡说八道 .................................................................................................314
9 追寻一生 .................................................................................................365
10 越洋电话 .................................................................................................370
11 D城人家 ...................................................................................................383
(1)优雅希拉 ........................................................................................383
(2)自由尼龙 ........................................................................................386
(3)奇葩姐姐 ........................................................................................391
(4)梦幻奇缘 .......................................................................................394
12 殊途同归 ..................................................................................................399
照片 ........................................................................................................401
编者的话 (《生于1950》 吕旭 著)
和当今很多自传、回忆录的作者不同,《生于1950》的作者不是政客名流、富商权贵,也不是精神大师、巨星名媛。她是一个普通人,一个甘居底层,漠视功名利禄,不屑“与时俱进”的普通人。她写这部回忆不是炫耀“功成名就”的辉煌,不是展示成为“人上人”的风光,也不是记载某个重大历史事件的始末,更不是“表达对伟人的崇敬之情”。在这部回忆中,作者记录的是在七十几年的岁月中她所经历的种种往事的片断,日常生活的点点滴滴,难以忘怀的亲情、友情,和她对坎坷人生的反思、醒悟。
真实是记实作品的生命。作者坚守的写作原则第一是真实,第二是真实,第三还是真实。每一个细节,每一段对话,每一篇描述,都与当事人和见证者反复核实、验证过。作者凭借几十年积累的日记、笔记、通信,清晰再现历史上的一个个瞬间,包括当时发生的一切及作者的心境、情感。
这部回忆的第一卷记录的是作者的成长经历,从被爱环绕的童话般的童年开始,她经历了少年的困惑,青春期的迷茫,中年的坎坷,一路风风雨雨中,从未停止过读书、求知、探索、反思、领悟。她视人生为一个连续的自我认知、自我改进、自我完善的过程,视今生遇到的每一个人为人生老师。
第二卷记录的是作者原生家庭的成员和历史。由于历史的原因,她对家族史知道的不多,不只是对曾任清末静海知县的太姥爷和扶妻携子从山东闯关东到新民县的太爷爷几乎一无所知,对勤劳致富、开仓济贫、办学育才的爷爷也只知一二。可父母言传身教的家训她却一刻不曾忘记:守护良知,淡漠名利,自省自律,与人为善。爷爷的名言“黄金万贯,不如薄技在身”“为人不当差,当差不自在”更是一生都在提醒她:要珍惜天赋,把聪明才智发挥到极致,让自己的存在使周围的人更幸福,周围的世界更美好。
优秀的记实文字都是用生命写成的。这部书是历时十年才完成的,它刻印着作者生命的痕迹,倾注着作者对人生、亲人、朋友、相识或者不相识的人们的一往深情。
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