http://blogs.yogajournal.com/herenow/2011/11/finding-a-lesson-in-endings.html
This past year I've lost friendships as result of a death, a disagreement, or just simply due to falling out of touch. I had a gathering of friends at my apartment last week, and as I looked around the room, I realized every person there had touched my life in some significant way. Some of them I hadn't seen in a long time because our busy schedules.
Having this room full of friends got me thinking about the purpose of the people who come and go in my life, and how to deal with the loss of a friendship, or of any relationship.
The most significant loss in my life was my father's sudden death over three years ago. I'm still processing it, but he left me with the wisdom to appreciate the loved ones in my life. And it's because of him that I found yoga; he practiced every day. I remember him doing these hilarious poses in our living room as I ate my cereal before school, poses that I now know as Downward-Facing Dog and Warrior ll.
Six months after my father's death, I was still struggling with the grief. One night I grabbed his yoga mat and went to a class. Afterward, I felt somewhat at peace for the first time since he had passed. Since then, yoga has become a safe place for me to tune out my worries and conflicts and just focus on the present moment and being grateful for my life.
Now, like my father, I practice yoga every morning. My typical intention is to focus on someone in my life and send them love and warm thoughts. Sometimes, if I'm having a disagreement with a friend, I will make my intention to end negative thoughts and send them positive ones. This doesn't stop the conflict, but it makes me feel calmer and less agitated.
But relationships do sometimes end. And when they do, I struggle with letting go. I'm working on accepting these losses as a gain in knowledge; to realize that everyone who comes into my life, no matter how long, teaches me something.
In that thinking, even my last bad romantic breakup had its positives, by teaching me what to watch out for when I do date again, and how to be better in relationships.
I'm trying to focus on the lesson, the experience shared, rather than the endings. Whether it's a loss as devastating as losing my dad, or as uncomfortable as realizing that a friendship has run its course, I'm grateful for all the relationships in my life, for helping to shape me to be who I am.
http://blogs.yogajournal.com/herenow/2011/11/finding-a-lesson-in-endings.html
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