remonstrate vs. remit

These two words I rarely used because I work lonely. Hard to grasp untill I look at their synonyms and think on my own in a special way.

Main Entry:  remonstrate 
Part of Speech:  verb 
Definition:  argue against 
Synonyms:  animadvert, blame, censure, challenge, combat, complain, criticize, decry, demur, deprecate, disapprove, disparage, dispute, dissent, except, expostulate, fight, find fault, frown upon, inveigh, kick*, nag, object, oppose, pick at, protest, rain, recriminate, resist, scold, sound off, take exception, take issue, withstand 
Antonyms:  agree, concede, give in 

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Main Entry:  remit 
Part of Speech:  verb 
Definition:  send, transfer 
Synonyms:  address, consign, dispatch, forward, mail, make payment, pay, post, route, settle, ship, square, transmit 
Antonyms:  hold, keep 
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Main Entry:  remit 
Part of Speech:  verb 
Definition:  stop, postpone 
Synonyms:  abate, absolve, alleviate, amnesty, cancel, condone, decrease, defer, delay, desist, diminish, dwindle, ease up, excuse, exonerate, fall away, forbear, forgive, halt, hold off, hold up, intermit, mitigate, moderate, modify, modulate, pardon, prorogue, put off, reduce, relax, release, repeal, reprieve, rescind, respite, shelve, sink, slack, slacken, soften, stay, suspend, wane, weaken 
Antonyms:  encourage, forge, forward 

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 defer 
Part of Speech:  verb 
Definition:  hold off, put off 
Synonyms:  adjourn, block, delay, detain, extend, give rain check, hang fire, hinder, hold up, impede, intermit, lay over, lengthen, obstruct, postpone, procrastinate, prolong, prorogue, protract, put on back burner, put on hold, put on ice, remit, retard, set aside, shelve, slow, stall, stay, suspend, table, waive 
Antonyms:  advance, expedite, forge, forward, hasten, hurry 
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Main Entry:  defer 
Part of Speech:  verb 
Definition:  yield 
Synonyms:  accede, accommodate, acquiesce, adapt, adjust, admit, agree, assent, bow, buckle, capitulate, cave, comply, concede, cringe, fawn, give in to, knuckle, knuckleunder, kowtow, obey, submit, succumb, truckle 
Antonyms:  advance, force, forge 

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Main Entry:  demur 
Part of Speech:  verb 
Definition:  disagree 
Synonyms:  balk, cavil, challenge, combat, complain, deprecate, disapprove, dispute, doubt, fight, hem and haw, hesitate, object, oppose, pause, protest, pussyfoot, refuse, remonstrate, resist, scruple, shy, stick, stickle, strain, take exception, vacillate, wait and see, waver 
Notes:  demur  is the verb 'to object or voice opposition' while demure  is the adjective meaning 'modest, shy' 
Antonyms:  accept, agree, consent, go along 

Find out how defer is different than demur? _(o)