不许笑！He said he's going to talk with his therapist, that means

he had a problem, even before you met. A lot of that has to do with timidness and unfamiliarity.

You may train him to get use to your touch, for his body to trust your touch, thus releases his tension.

The man who prefers le femme on top is more of a concern for to me. You probably like a very masculine and demanding body on top of you, to really have the O.