it all depends...回复：Well, When a person has a huge "loss" in her

It all depends on who you want yourself to be...in the long run.

Of course one has to go through all the "stages" of emotion however, it is us (again) who decide on how long we want to stay there--our whole life, or as short as possible.

It is also us, and only us, who decide on how we like us to be, or to be seen--a loser, a victim, or a normal person.

--One can lose money, good lifestyle and the love from a hu*****and, and anything else. What one can not lose, is herself( in cases like this) or himself, and the self esteem, and most importantly, dignity.

It is not easy, of course. --Nobody says life is easy.

A successful marriage is not easy either.

What is easier? well, I'd say it's easier to stay being a victim and be angry and ask the whole world for sympathy, than moving on with one's life. And be happy, with whatever life provides...and if a person can do that, who knows what could be waiting ahead --everybody deserves a second chance, including "us', the "victim". And we will decide if we want a "second chance" for ourselves, or not.

By no means that I didn't know what a nasty business it could be with this 小三 .
But would my sympathy help?

Again, good luck to us all.