From NYtimes: Questions Couples Should Ask (Or Wish They Had) Before Marrying Published: December 17, 2006 Relationship experts report that too many couples fail to ask each other critical questions before marrying. Here are a few key ones that couples should consider asking: 1) Have we discussed whether or not to have children, and if the answer is yes, who is going to be the primary care giver? 2) Do we have a clear idea of each other’s financial obligations and goals, and do our ideas about spending and saving mesh? 3) Have we discussed our expectations for how the household will be maintained, and are we in agreement on who will manage the chores? 4) Have we fully disclosed our health histories, both physical and mental? 5) Is my partner affectionate to the degree that I expect? 6) Can we comfortably and openly discuss our sexual needs, preferences and fears? 7) Will there be a television in the bedroom? 8) Do we truly listen to each other and fairly consider one another’s ideas and complaints? 9) Have we reached a clear understanding of each other’s spiritual beliefs and needs, and have we discussed when and how our children will be exposed to religious/moral education? 10) Do we like and respect each other’s friends? 11) Do we value and respect each other’s parents, and is either of us concerned about whether the parents will interfere with the relationship? 12) What does my family do that annoys you? 13) Are there some things that you and I are NOT prepared to give up in the marriage? 14) If one of us were to be offered a career opportunity in a location far from the other’s family, are we prepared to move? 15) Do each of us feel fully confident in the other’s commitment to the marriage and believe that the bond can survive whatever challenges we may face?
黄舒骏:她以为她很美丽
禁不起一片寂寞飘落心底
我实在没出息
不可以,我一定要专心
为什么春天加上青春期
我就克制不了自己
不可以,真是罪大恶极
爸爸说考上大学后
春天才会真的来临
到时候要交什么样的女孩子不可以
她以为她很美丽
其实只有背影还可以
我一点都不在意
她以为她很美丽
其实只有头发还可以
我理都不想理
人家说我们考上医学系的学生最得意
蹲在家里自然会有人来相亲
为什么我已念到六年级
却没有一点动静
看上我的只有病人和细菌
他们说将来开业赚大钱
春天才会真的来临
到时候要娶什么样的女孩子不可以
自古都是英雄爱美女
不是英雄也爱美女
但这年头的英雄和美女如何定义
是谁曾经这么告诉我
内在美获得最后胜利
谁知道你在说的时候
心里想的什么东西
路上车子价值越名贵
里面女人就越美丽
什么道理,我就没这个福气
今年过年我就参拾柒
拥有事业和学历
为什么,就是没有爱的讯息
究竟我还需要多少努力
春天才会真的来临
到时候难道只要是女孩子就可以
她以为她很美丽
其实只有眼睛还可以
我理都不想理
她以为她很美丽
其实只有衣服还可以
我理都不想理
