这是一篇让俺唏嘘不已的林贝卡的短文：

忙碌 06-29-2006

Busy, busy, busy, that is my life. Busy with work, busy with kids, busy with family...

It is a hectic clinic. Phones ring off the hook all the time. It comes to a point when I pick up the phones at home, clinic's name popps into my mind.

After work, it is kids time. I have to drive kids to their summer soccer camp, swimming classes, painting, piano, baskteball, 4-H... I am so tired that I sometimes almost want to fall asleep while I am driving.

As soon as I enter my house, it is endless housework. Clean the dirty dishes, clean the messy houses, load the clothes.... I do require kids to do chores at home. Becky and Cisco are the only ones who will do it right away. Daniel, Ivana and Tony take hours to finish their chores. Daniel does not like to wash dishes. He often pays Becky a dime to wash his dishes for him.

After I fnishe everything at home, I am really exhausted.

07-05-2006 晴

今天Bob 带着孩子们去Kansas参加family reunion ,周末回来. 我和 Bob, 孩子们一一吻别, 挥手告别, 车一开走, 突然有一种怅然若失的感觉. 推开家门,是如此的冷静, 没有了往日孩子们嘻笑,打闹的声音.他们刚走,我就开始思念他们了, Cisco 的聪慧, Daniel的调皮,Becky的甜美, Ivana的可爱, Tony 的活泼. 还有,突然开始想起Bob的好来. 在家里时,总喜欢和他争吵, 吵的连我自己都不认识自己了,没有了昔日的温柔.所以这次决定呆在家里,一个人好好的调整自己的心态,给自己放几天假,什么也不干.

时间过得真快,我来美国转眼14年了.从学生,到妻子,到母亲,变化真大.看着孩子们一天天长大,给了我许多的快乐和幸福,当然也有不愉快的时候. 有时孩子们不听话,不愿意打扫他们的房间,书本玩具总是乱扔,房间总是乱糟糟的,看到我就心烦. 还有,Bob每天很晚才回家, 有时周末也上班. 真是marry to a doctor, marry to loneliness.

婚姻前的不同爱好,不同背景,不同文化,不同信仰,是好奇和吸引.可是婚后,却成了争吵的原因. Dr. Charles Lowery once said: "Opposites attract, but after marriage, opposites attack. Most of the time, we are attracted to people who don't have the things that we have.Incompatibility is why we get married, but it's also used as a reason to divorce. Incompatibility is just a lack of communication. If we just try to love [our spouse] the way we want to be loved, we are in trouble. Unless you communicate, it's difficult to know how to love another person. "

想想自己的行为,突然感到惭愧. 虽然我对孩子们耐心无比,可是我对Bob态度可以用上"恶劣". 只要稍不满意,就大发雷霆. 大概是吃多了辣椒. 我是个非常神经质的女人. Bob却是个相当冷静的人,也许和他的职业有关. 他总是不守时, 这让我很烦恼.

Writing is really theraputical to me. I had better stop here for today.



看了这篇短文后噤不住好奇的给林贝卡发QQH问是如何摆平这5个孩子的？得到的回答使我惊叹：
嫁给一个医生老公自己还要：
1.每周五天工作
2.五个孩子没请人照顾
3.五个孩子每人都有课外特长课程，如钢琴，小提琴，游泳等等等等就象所有中国已婚女人俗不可耐的逼着孩子学这学那一样。
4.给全家准备早，晚两餐。
5.孩子们都睡了后开始自己多年的爱好：文章诗词歌赋。
6.所有的家务。
7.每天早晨6点去跑步。
8.shopping(这是俺想象的，不过俺想不管你喜不喜欢都要做的吧，孩子的衣服，一日三餐日用品)
... ...
不敢想了,谁能给俺列出这个工作明细？整个儿一个24小是机器的工作量呀...
惊叹！佩服！迷一样的中国女人！

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