You write well. I hope

The English police doesn't include me. I did write some suggestions on the dating profile that someone posted here yesterday.  My suggestions were sincere. I believe that was not your profile though. 

I didn't listen to the dating podcast, but from what you discribed,  that should be a very good guidence.  It seems you and your wife are still  good friends,  why don't you reconcile. I think it would be pretty hard to find someone whom match you better than your spouse for 20 some years if you are  both in your 50s. 

Wish you the best luck on your dating.