回复：儿子被指犯了N.J.S.9：6-3

去年有 50413 reports of child abuse in New Jersey,所以您的孩子也成為今年紀錄中的一部份.
您需要看一下官方有關您的大孩子這種行為的控罪
http://www.nj.gov/dcf/about/commissions/njtfcan/

(A)因為您的孩子是剛剛 reached 18, 所以他的案件是依據成人的案件在一般的法院來處理,(如果他under the age of 18 他的案件是在Juvenile Court審理)
這中間的問題在於如果他是在Juvenile Court審理,所有的court record到他滿21歲時,會自動封存,所以除非將來他要擔任公職,沒有任何人可以看到這個紀錄. 如果在一般的法庭,所有的紀錄都是公開的資料.

(B)他所被控訴的罪名屬於刑事控罪,這是fourth degree abuse or neglect of children

相關法律

N.J.S.A. 9:68209;3. Cruelty and neglect of children; crime of fourth degree; remedies.

Any parent, guardian or person having the care, custody or control of any child, who shall abuse, abandon, be cruel to or neglectful of such child, or any person who shall abuse, be cruel to or neglectful of any child shall be deemed to be guilty of a crime of the fourth degree.

If a fine be imposed, the court may direct the same to be paid in whole or in part to the parent, or to the guardian, custodian or trustee of such minor child or children; provided, however, that whenever in the judgment of the court it shall appear to the best interest of the child to place it in the temporary care or custody of a society or corporation, organized or incorporated under the laws of this State, having as one of its objects the prevention of cruelty to children, and the society or corporation is willing to assume such custody and control, the court may postpone sentence and place the child in the custody of such society or corporation, and may place defendant on probation, either with the county probation officers or an officer of the society or corporation to which the child is ordered, and may order the parent, guardian or person having the custody and control of such child to pay to such society or corporation a certain stated sum for the maintenance of such child.

When, however, a child is so placed in the custody of such society or corporation, and defendant fails to make the payments as ordered by the court, the court shall cause the arrest and arraignment before it of such defendant, and shall impose upon the defendant the penalty provided in this section.

因為考慮到您的孩子將來申請學校與找工作的問題,個人會建議您諮詢律師,不要自行DIY處理這個控罪,