I am not a legal expert, but your handling of the ARC issues see

in America legal system. You think you have all the rights, but  being in USA for 38 years, I don't feel you have all the rights you mensioned. You need legal advises from free arrorney before spending your money for private helps. You also need psychological helps.  I think you are a very smart, well educated lady.  Try to build a new life maybe is your best choice.

Use your Master degree, you can be a winner any place in this world.  In US, you have to think in American way instead of thinking in Chinese way.  I also noticed that you tried to use 家暴, this is an effect  tool, but I have doubts about the legal ground.