我google了一会儿，所有的都不是绝对的

我原先以为法律上，只有女人有特权得到赡养费，其实不是的，主要看双方经济状况 （alimony can still be awarded permanently, but it also serves to "get people back on their feet" after a divorce — not just women, but men as well. ）。你太太现在有工作，虽然公司现在没有赚钱，但应该不会总是依赖你。Alimony is basically dependent upon the paying spouse's ability to pay and the receiving spouse's need for support.

每个婚姻的情况都不一样，you should speak with a mediator and/or family law attorney to work those issues out.

还有，我不知道想的对不对，我觉得你现在的律师说的不对，除非我们对‘需要付给她很多钱’理解不同。男人离婚也要过日子，你们过不下去不是你一个人的问题，怎么可能谁提出离婚，谁就吃亏呢？你多问几个律师不好么？