one of the 1st legal step of divorce is to exchange financial in

both sides, which include

- salary

- living expense (rental, mortgage, utility, transportation etc.,)

- savings, investment

- retirement account

- property/real estate value.

Besides, LZ will be better off to do some research on the family law of your domiciliary state and consult with a couple of other attorneyes on the issue which you are not sure about. Most attorney has an incentive to drag the case as much as he can, so they can bill you all the time. So the more you understand your case, the more control you have over your pocket.

Good Luck!