但是看看她以前的帖子~~又不想花钱，又想让她妈来给她省钱。又怕她妈伺候不好她LG~~

作为子女，我们这一辈子本来就没有什么可以回报生我们养我们的父母了，而且我们陪伴父母的日子又有多少呢？就算父母帮不到我们，只是来了看看我们看看孩子又会怎么样了呢？帮忙看孩子是恩情，不帮忙看孩子是本分。 但是Elian的帖子为什么让这么多人气愤，

1 “I really don't know if she could be any help to us but babysitting so that we could go out for grocery shopping and dine out.”

-她觉得她妈只能看孩子，这样她可以和LG出去买菜吃饭？~~把自己妈妈整个当成老妈子，吃饭不带妈妈不说还要在家看孩子

2. “Second, my mom can't cook dinner for my hu*****and. He won't like the way she cooks. We can't eat Chinese style food my mom is used to make. And my mom doesn't know how to iron my hu*****and's dress shirts and pants correctly and polish his shoes. I still have to do all these by myself.”

-这还要多说吗？

3. “We may have to sacrifice some privacy and hide our intimacy from my mother. It'll be quite awkward.”

- 少亲热9个月会死啊？~ 回到房间爱干什么干什么，她妈妈管的着吗？一定要在大厅里面亲嘴做爱吗？我不能理解~~

4. “It's a tight family that doesn't need outsider's interference. I just realized how difficult it could be to introduce my extended family in.”

- again, 把自己妈妈看成outsider and extended family. 这里大家都是当妈的，或者要当妈的，以后自己孩子把自己看成一个outsider, extended family心理能好受吗？

5. “I have been a true bilingural person so long that my inner thoughts always start from English, not Chinese. My mom's presense would be a slight stressor to my brain. And I don't know how the baby and I could cope with the confusion. My brain can't simply switch on and off between the two sides of English and Chinese usage in short intervals.”

- 这个就太装了。。。

为了个男人自己的妈都能不要了~~而且上面全部的全部都是她为她LG着想，直接assume他老公的不便，完全没有想到她妈妈为了能看到她，孩子，尽所能得帮她来到一个陌生的国家，没有自己的语言环境，没有一个能说话的人，做出多大的牺牲。直接因为不能按照女儿想要的方法伺候女儿的家，做出女儿女婿想吃的饭，不能此后女婿烫衣刷鞋的 被女儿判刑，觉得没有见面的必要。真不知道她是拿自己的妈妈当成老妈子还是当成妈妈，这也太孝顺了。

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再看看她以前的帖子要买精子生孩子的那个，她不是还说她老妈也很赞同吗~~说的还挺开心的。 再看她说“I don't need to pay for childcare My mom is gonna be with us for 9 months, and I don't plan to go to work for a few years after she leaves.”