Your problem is that you are "比条件" all the time: 房子,

钱 ....That is wrong wrong wrong! 你老公宽容你 or not has nothing to do with it! Forget about all those 条件s, or you married down, he married up, or whatever.

If you wants 你老公宽容你 you better use time now to think hard how to talk with him so that you get what you want.