再谈妹妹故事 - 从另一边的角度

Forgive me, it is still faster to type in English.

As I mentioned before, I had experienced "the other side", ie, almost an ex-wife, so I would like to give my opinions from the other side.

It is very true, after children are born into the family, raising children and maintain a pleasant relationship with spouse is a challenge for many woman, especially when children are very young. I was not very young when I had my first child, after we had married for just one year. Medical complications and the challenging baby put me into a depression for quite a long time. Needless to say that my hu*****and was not happy then, and so he went out with a co-worker, a young, professional chinese woman.

I have no doubt about her love towards my hu*****and, and I believe they had a lot of fun together. I even believe they might be a good match to each other. We all know that there are many people we can be with happily. My hu*****and evetually returned home, after moved out for a week, because his family opened his eyes and he himself is a decent man. It was very painful when he saw the damages he had brought upon his children. He admitted that this chinese woman had affected him a lot. Without her expressing her desire towards him he would not have gone that far.

This incident taught me a lesson that I would like to share with other people. First of couse we all need to be loving and caring towards our spouse so we are happy together. Our children grow up the best in a happy family. Second, when someone still in marriage seek out for love (or so called friendships), we need to think about the negative influence on breaking up their families. My chidren had been affected by this incident, which broke both my hu*****and and my hearts.

So, now you can see why I cannot respect neither this man nor this woman. We make mistakes, but we should try our best to work them out if our children are still small. They need us, and it is our responsibility to provide them with the best environment. I don't know in person about the ex-wife in the story, we learned about her awfulness soly from the ex-hu*****and, which I doubt about the truth, because this ex-hu*****and did not initiate a divorce, until he met her. My hu*****and told me that he was shocked and flattered when he learned that that woman loved him, and that made him think about the possibilities..... A fat wife and crying child, a young professional woman and romantic dinner, you do the math....My children and I are fortunate because my hu*****and came from a good family, and my mother-in-law would not accept that woman as her daughter-in-law, saying a decent woman does not go out with a married man. My hu*****and returned home eventually, but that ex-wife is not as lucky.

The most chilling part of this story, to me, lies in the end, how this woman manipulated this man to ill treat his ex-wife and children. His ex-wife entitles spouse support by law, because she stayed home raising children. He has the responsibility to support her financially. The way she persuaded him to cut his income so he would not provide for his ex-wife and children was really evil, and if proved, would serve jail time for this. She even boasts for what she has done, is really beyond me.

I see a selfish man and a selfish plus unkind woman in this story. What she did towards breaking his family, and ill-treat his ex-wife and children, are un-forgivable. Decent people cannot be happy, once they realize that their happiness are built on other people's ruins and pains, especially their own children's. Unless this man will never recover his conscience, otherwise when the day comes, he will not be able to respect this new wife and himself. What goes around comes around, I do believe justice.

I will share this story with my hu*****and. I would like him to read about what this woman did to his ex-wife and children. So he will think again.