Thanks sschirp! You are extremely right on that two need

to connent on both mental and physical level. He actually told me before (when we just started dating) he think mental clicks but physical doesn't match. Physical is still a problem now since I do not want to.

Yes, I agree with you. He would only say that he is my friend in the party. He probably even won't use the word "date". It actually happened before when he came across one of his friends in the restaurent when we were having dinner, he said I am his friend. But I don't think other people are that silly.