My apologies to sansemao and 滑雪季节

First to 滑雪季节: sorry for calling you "poor thing". I had been there and understand what you are going through. Wish you good luck in the new year.

To sansemao: I had no intention to make you feel bad. I like your posts, especially those on house hunting, trying to conceive etc, and the smart, fun personality behind those posts. But I just feel something not quite right/sincere when you keep saying you didn't want marry your BF and the marriage is just for the good of the baby, which made your post on your BF proposal less moving, and some people may feel you are hypocrite on the issue.

In fact there is nothing wrong to take your BF years to propose. Many guys are cautious on long term commitment, and my hu*****and is one of them. But he is a loving, committed hu*****and.

I majored in math, so I am a quite logical person and it bothers me when I read something which doesn't make sense to me logically.

Anyway, wish you and your new family happy new year, and good pregnancy.