well said. The greatest lessons I've learned coming

to America is to appreciate who I am and find out what I really want. Back in China, I struggled a lot to please others and hope that in return, others would appreciate me. That didn't work out. I only made myself miserable trying to ingratiate myself to tastes of others. And I was never good enough. I didn't like who I am and I even said that to myself all the time.

My fiance used to say that I wasn't a very happy person when he first met me. Our relationship has helped me realize that I do have a choice: to stay happy or to plunge myself constantly in depression. I can't change who I am, but I can choose to accept myself and explore all my potentials.