love should come spontanously.When there is a string attched to

u can never find the perfect man. In fact, there is no Perfect one but the one perfect for you. Remember you are looking for a man who loves you, not form a deal on the business table. Being happy in life is more than anything. If you make a decent money why you care about a man's salary. Your self-reliance is a plus for you when looking for a man( u do not have to worry about the man has to make more than you do), you should take a advantage of it, just focus on the man's personality and characters.Good luck to you.

ED--- Is a no no, no matter how a good man is, with ED he will have trouble fulfilling his repsonsiblity as a man, that only hurts a relationship. In that case, just forget about it!!!