富人争亿记资产不关心，学了个词 Gaslighting, 好奇谁有过类似经历吗？

李学霸用了一个词煤气灯效应，当时不知啥意思，原来是gaslighting, 是从一个英格丽褒曼的老电影Gaslight 来的。电影讲继承大笔遗产的少女宝拉（英格丽褒曼 饰）引来心术不正的青年安东追求，婚后逐渐受到古怪现象困扰，她总会听到奇怪的响声，东西经常莫名其妙消失又出现，煤气灯也开始忽明忽暗，安东暗示一切都是宝拉自己的幻觉，是宝拉的精神出现了问题。就在宝拉慢慢心理崩溃，濒临发疯的边缘，一个年轻的侦探伯林出现了，他发现宝拉正在被孤立，背后的主谋正是她的完美丈夫。

What is Gaslighting?

Gaslighting is psychological manipulation that makes the recipient question their feelings, instincts, and even their sanity. It is one of the worst forms of dirty fighting, and it is used by both men and women. Gaslighting includes a variety of techniques, such as:

• Pretending not to understand when you do.
• Labeling your partner’s thoughts as crazy or imagined.
• Questioning the other person’s memory of events when they remember correctly.
• Pretending to forget what actually occurred when you actually remember.
• Denying promises that you know you made.
• Trivializing the other person’s feelings as being too sensitive when their reaction is somewhat normal.

Effects of Gaslighting

While these actions may seem relatively harmless, over time, this pattern causes the targeted person to feel confused, anxious, isolated, and depressed. In other words, it hurts them. Harming another’s sense of wellbeing, like happens with gaslighting, is emotional abuse.

我记得年轻时有date 过一个人，各方面都不错，就是对我的一举一动都是否定，我自认虽不特别优秀，也没差到哪去，和他刚了几次，他稍有收敛，可是还是一直阴阳怪气，和他在一起非常不舒服，就把他踹了，不知道这是不是gaslighting. 

好奇谁有过类似gaslighting的经历吗？