Thank you for your trust and compliment. I don't think

that my marriage is perfect. But my hu*****and and I do care, respect and trust each other.

I don't think there is a specify way to treat an American guy. My key is treat him like a hu*****and, but no an American. That is treat him the same way like you would treat a Chinese guy :))) I would think that talk to him in the reasonable way that you prefer.

Good luck