Mutual trust is a foundation of any marriage . . .

Without the trust, a marriage lost its foundation.  Nobody can predict future.  It is time wasted to dwell on whether you can find someone or not after divorce. But one thing is for sure - i.e., even you might forgive your hu*****and, but you will never forget it.  Ask yourself, "Can I fully trust him again?".  As we Chinese say， "长痛不如短痛“。 Nobody is advocating or encouraging divorce.  But in some cases, divorce is probably a better option.  In my opinion, this is one of them.  Start your life fresh.  From your description, you are a strong woman.  Life is not easy no matter you are single, divoced,or married.  If you believe in yourself and work hard on it, you can create a good future for yourself.  After divoice, you and your hu*****and don't have to become enemies, particularly in the matter of raising your children.

This is my two-cents.