”孩子们“： 两三个小孩需要十年时间才没有后顾之忧。

以加州为例，下面几个红色的因素都支持楼主拿赡养费的。

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Factors Impacting Spousal Support in California

While there’s no guarantee that a court will order one spouse to pay alimony to the other after divorce, in cases that appear to merit a support award, factors like the following are taken into account:

• The duration of the marriage
• The age, health, and earning ability of each party
• The standard of living that the couple enjoyed while married
• Whether the party seeking alimony sacrificed their own career goals to support their spouse’s
• The payee’s ability to pay 
• Each spouse’s financial assets and liabilities
• Whether the requesting spouse can maintain gainful employment without harming the best interests of their children
• Evidence of domestic violence
• Any factor the court deems just and equitable