However, there is no benefit to gain or lose, why one has to put on a mask and sugar-coating posts?
You feel so strongly about my comments, may be I accidentally steps on your toe, the sore spot - that you really want to go home, but because of circumstances, you cannot.
To me, one has to appreciate what one has NOW. One has to realize what one WANTS and what one NEEDS - idealistically, the WANTS match the NEEDS - it would be heaven. When it doesn't, then one should find a way to compromise and get the bests out of it.