回复： mess situation. 1) If one of you is married, you better

stay out of this game. 2)If you both are single, you would already have started to date each other.

The pain you have now indicates at least one of you is married. you are waiting for his further movement like marry you. If this is what you want, have an open talk with him.

If not, you need come back to yourself, your life and family. Leave the money he raised for you, find your peaceful mind and balance.