Adorable post and a statement for love!

I admire the "married to a chicken so follow a chicken, married to a dog and follow a dog" mentality. If he and I are married, I will follow him to the end of the world. "rich or poor, health or sickness, ...." haven't we all heard the wedding vows and burst into tears because we felt so touched? (I did, on two weddings I attended in the US.)

You are right, that is what totally committed people do. I admit I am currently not at that level yet, due to the current unemployment, parents and others' opinion that I should be looking for job in China, the cultural dif. / concerns I have about he and I, not because he is unemployed and has no $. He showed up in my life when he felt lowest and his career hit the bottom, and I embraced him.

I do feel lucky that he loves me and wants to be with me for good. But as he said, I am NOT hard to love (cuz I am kind, the way I look, etc.)

I am hesitating here because of the "other choice"/the China choice I have, and the idea of following someone and be dependent on him is a bit scary. I have always been independent and I've seen men's betrayl to their wives (saw too many married men cheating on their wives before I left, cuz they were hitting on me!), that I think it is always good to be reliant on yourself.