Neither were U so American! Were you so successful when

you first go to the US? NO, but you were willing to try! That's the difference between you and him! You had a goal in your heart when you first came, and look at what that has made you, a successful career woman.

Does he have a goal (to be with you) now? If he does, he'd be willing to make a similar move across the Pacific as you did over a decade ago.

Has he tried? How can he say he wouldn't be happy in China? As Leaf has posted, her hu*****and said his stay was much better than he had imagined. He's giving you all kinds of excuses that white people normally would. That's how the US got into trouble in the first place, and will not get him far in life if he keeps doing it.