He said I am selling myself short by thinking I need to go to Ch

to be employed again. He said all these other people on WS who do not have jobs now, they are not all going to China! He did not want to admit that by staying I am making a sacrifice here, but after I got frustrated and burst into tears, he admit that if I view myself to have better potential there, then yes.

He is willing to travel to China at some point with me and get to know my family better, because those are important to me. But he said he has absolutely no interest to learn Chinese, and China is low on his list in terms of next vacation spot and he probably will never want to go if not for me.

In terms of kids in the future, he said his parents made a sacrifice to move here so he can have better opportunities, and he wants his kids to grow up here. He does not care if they speak Chinese, but if they do, fine. He said, you just cannot be both, ultimately it is very hard to be familiar and be able to "connect" with people in two very dif. cultures. Eventually you have to pick one. I have to say, he is not exactly wrong on this.