I hope this can put you in perspective once and for all

My own hu*****and is an American, fifth generation Irish American, and has just come back from his assignment in China.

In the past a lot of members of this forum knew how reluctant he was about going to China even for vacation purposes. He wasn't given a choice this time with the understanding of his career as an attorney in jeorpardy so he made himself go, with a lot of reservations in mind. He said the experience is a lot better than his anticipation because China is a lot more open than the Westerners cared to paint...

Sounds like your boyfriend is an Asian Canadian, right? and what's the problem?