This is not about $, but whether I should choose China

over him.

I will not need to live w. his parents or anyone else for a long time to come. I can afford for both of us to live in NYC for quite a long time. It is more a question that should I go for my career, which could potentionally be good and more rewarding in China, or should I be with him, despite all the uncertainties now and in the forseeable future? At my age, this is a once in a life time chance to go back to China.