You made her look bad by offering unsolicited help

本帖于 2019-05-08 18:35:03 时间, 由普通用户 One1618 编辑
回答: 暴躁易怒的女同事HappyE2019-05-07 13:53:19

 

She wants to re-establish her superiority by hinting to you that your opinion is not relevant.

Your offering help reminded her of her inadequacy, which led to fear.  Fear in turn led to anger.

In an office, do not offer help unasked unless you are the boss.  When asked for help, it's better to start with exploring the problem until she gets her own answer, rather than telling her the answer out right.

 

(Her behavior may not be all conscious, or just reflexes learned since childhood, in order to regain her inner balance.  People do things because who they are, not because who you are.)

 

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make sense -2kidsMomCa- 给 2kidsMomCa 发送悄悄话 2kidsMomCa 的博客首页 (0 bytes) () 05/08/2019 postreply 19:13:49

People do things because who they are, not because who you are。受 -nydct- 给 nydct 发送悄悄话 (0 bytes) () 05/08/2019 postreply 19:26:20

分析得太好了。 -圆梦瑶- 给 圆梦瑶 发送悄悄话 (0 bytes) () 05/09/2019 postreply 06:12:38

Thanks for the analysis, it is very useful! I think it is quite -HappyE- 给 HappyE 发送悄悄话 HappyE 的博客首页 (285 bytes) () 05/09/2019 postreply 10:26:30

She has insecurities and -One1618- 给 One1618 发送悄悄话 (816 bytes) () 05/09/2019 postreply 14:05:44

非常非常好的分析,受益了。谢谢! -JustAsked- 给 JustAsked 发送悄悄话 JustAsked 的博客首页 (0 bytes) () 05/16/2019 postreply 19:28:58

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