我:在公司5个多月, 学历比A高,经验没她多
同事A: 在公示3年, 学历不高,但有20多年的经验 (她比我大20多岁)白女
我们级别相同,但是管不同branch, 有些工作数据结果相互需要,我们都报告给同一个老板,老板、公司现在都需要她。
事件:
昨天早上,她很生气的跑到我的办公室,说我提供的数据有错误,导致她工作无法进行,但是她找不出是哪里出错,命令我快点检查找出原因。但是整个过程她的表情愤怒,声音很大,非常的不尊重和无理。没有给我时间调查,就得出是我错误的结论。我找出原因去找他解释,她就用像审问犯人一样的逼问我原因。我解释说这个数据上个月是我做的,但是我只是DO YOU A FAVOUR,这应该是你的工作,所以我这个月没做。(虽然这个项目没有明确是属于谁的,我是新人应该积极去做,但我真的忘了做,才这么说)我解释了这个工作应该由她来负责的理由, 她接受了,说IT'S NOT YOUR FAULT,还向我道歉了说她只是非常STRESSFUL才会这样多我。我没有当场接受她的道歉,而是很大声的说 WE CAN HAVE A DISCUSSION, BUT YOUR ATTITUDE IS NOT ACCEPTABLE. 因为不是她第一次这样像罪犯一样审问我,在没有调查,给我机会解释前就断定是我的错误,极度不尊重我。前5个月这样的情况几乎每个月都会有,但是我都忍了,想着我是新人,不要得罪了老人,反正公司也不会拿她怎样,只会给自己找难受。但是我发现,她觉得我软柿子好欺负,就越发得寸进尺对我乱发脾气。我终于没忍住,给她发了EMAIL,COPY老板,原文如下:
A:
I have decided to accept your oral apology you made in your office regarding your angry attitude, emotional speech you had with me this morning.
As I mentioned, I considered myself a team player and always tried my best to coordinate and help out. Although I understand the pressures and stresses you are having from work, your angry attitude towards me is disrespectful, unprofessional and unacceptable.
Since this is not the first time you have done it to me, I think it’s necessary to have this documented, bring it to the management’s attention and hope it doesn’t repeat in the future. (7月份我给老板发过一个COMPLAIN EMAIL)
I am a reasonable person; I respect everyone and am friendly to others, so I expect the same from you in return.
老板回复如下:
I appreciate you letting me know about this, and I am happy to know that it appears both of you have resolved this.
I can appreciate how stressful things have been for you and all my team in my absence. I would, however still like to meet with you both Monday afternoon to discuss.
I know you both well and respect both of your for diligence and dedication to the company and I thank you for all the extra hard work you have put in over this year.
请问大家:
1) 我需要为MONDAY的DISCUSSION做什么准备,到时候应该怎么说
2) 今后如何与A相处,如果她还是不改,我应该IGNORE她吗?
3) 以后再遇到类似情况应该如果处理(我知道我这个做法不妥,老公说像小朋友告状,起不到什么效果,还只会说明我不会处理人际关系,毁了升官机会。哎,但是事已如此,覆水难收,只好请大家帮我出出主意,想想对策了。)
先谢谢了!