By blaming (什么都看不惯),

回答: ABC在美国快乐吗rr6mumu2025-01-15 15:14:51

 

he is distracting himself from this one thing that he needs to do, that is to take responsibility for himself. He is experiencing some difficulties in life and is unwilling to shoulder the burdens of unfulfilled expectations (yours and his own.)  "I'm not the problem. Look at the things around me, so bleak."

To take responsibility for oneself requires thoughts and actions. Fixing blames takes up time and energy, thus less is spent on the thoughts and actions, less anxiety, feeling more secure.

Happiness is a choice. He has to choose being happy, which takes much more effort than choosing being unhappy.

He needs to love himself more and think of himself as worthy.

 

(How many young men in the old country want to be in his shoes?)

 

 

 

 

 

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Agree. 怎么改变他呢? -rr6mumu- 给 rr6mumu 发送悄悄话 (0 bytes) () 01/15/2025 postreply 18:23:15

His unhappiness has become a habit. -One1618- 给 One1618 发送悄悄话 (552 bytes) () 01/15/2025 postreply 19:45:04

He may also have an identity issue. -One1618- 给 One1618 发送悄悄话 (294 bytes) () 01/15/2025 postreply 20:03:54

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