What is the best for my daughter 3

There are so many Chinese parents pushing their daughters going to IVY schools. This 3rd posting is not going to tell what is right or wrong. That is the parent's decision. Instead, it presents a true story. For my friend's privacy, I made some changes while keeping the nature of truth.

Nancy is my friend's daughter. I saw her US dream from elementary school to post doc.

At Grade 3, she was a beautiful, lovely girl. I felt everything was just perfect for her.

At Grade 5, one day, I visited my friend Dave. I saw Nancy was outside playing with other American kids. Dave open the door for me and saw his daughter playing outside. He yelled, "Nancy, come home. You have to study". Nancy looked around her friends and hesitated. Dave yelled again, "you are different, you have to study". Little by little, Nancy had super academic performance and didn't care other kids much. Somehow, Nancy felt other classmates were more or less stupid because they couldn't get their homework right. This made her not very popular at school.

Through the hard work, Nancy reached junior high at the height of less than 5 feet for lack of physical exercise. Her face was pale. Wtih her top performance on all aspect and rich parent, she was accepted by Harvard with out any financial aides. Dave hoped Nancy could graduate as MD from Harvard.

Because only the top 5 percent of Harvard graduate can continure to the Harvard MD program. Nancy didn't make into the MD program for the tough competition. She love Harvard and continured to phD of Biology at Harvard. Three years later, she got the phD. She then found a post Doc position in a state university now.

She is now close to 30 with no boy friend.

Dave has annual family income about $200,000. Over the past 10 years, he has paid Nancy's education about $300,000.

Last Christmas, I attended my friend's, Bob, party and saw her daughter, Lisa. The once lovely girl with pinck face now looked pale and tired. Bob told me proudly that Lisa just got accepted by a famous high school nationwide. She studies to 2 AM usually. While congratulated Bob and says, " you are so lucky to have such a smart daughter", deep in my mind, I disagree with Bob. I am seeing another Chinese girl is going to Nancy's route. But I can't tell Bob. It is this reason I am writing this "What is the best for my daughter" series.

-Sunflower28

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• How old is your daughter? -坚果- ♀ (0 bytes) () 03/19/2007 postreply 15:53:29

• 她有私心，是儿子, no daughter~~~ -育藤- ♀ (0 bytes) () 03/19/2007 postreply 15:56:27

• hahaha, this is funny... -坚果- ♀ (0 bytes) () 03/19/2007 postreply 16:14:12

• 一直想问你,杉菜和道明寺是什么典故啊? -4月芳菲- ♀ (0 bytes) () 03/19/2007 postreply 16:17:06

• do you know who are 杉菜和道明寺? -坚果- ♀ (0 bytes) () 03/19/2007 postreply 20:08:13

• not a clue, but you mentioned it in a post following LZ's previo -4月芳菲- ♀ (0 bytes) () 03/20/2007 postreply 05:23:13

• 唉, 长不到5尺也要怨名校啊 -育藤- ♀ (0 bytes) () 03/19/2007 postreply 15:53:46

• if she did not have enough sleep during age of 10- 15 -nowhere88- ♂ (0 bytes) () 03/19/2007 postreply 15:59:03

• 认识的一个补习学校的校长说：孩子无论怎样，家长都有不同的忧虑 -柳叶儿眉- ♀ (76 bytes) () 03/19/2007 postreply 16:01:09

• As long as Nancy loves research, nothing wroing with --realblue-- ♀ (231 bytes) () 03/19/2007 postreply 16:03:29

• where can i find the other 2? thanks -hz82000- ♀ (0 bytes) () 03/19/2007 postreply 16:04:34

• misleading- you don't have a daughter:) -4月芳菲- ♀ (0 bytes) () 03/19/2007 postreply 16:13:27

• 看不出来这是女孩才会有的问题。 -卧虫儿- ♀ (89 bytes) () 03/19/2007 postreply 18:07:09