I am sorry to hear your story, but I think it will take a lot of patience and time to turn him into a person a little less MAN. Usually I think men are not this MAN, especially at this era, when women actually have more and more rights. It is up to you if you want to hold on and change him slowly. If you think you don't want to change him, then it will be very hard for you to keep going like this, and life is short!