My point of view.

How comes nobody view this thing from the point of being a good hu*****and. This is how I will do if I am her hu*****and (hahahaha, I am not, and I am not trying to eat tofu here. LOL). I wouldn't condemn my wife for asking me to stay at home and not going to her place just because she worried about I couldn't finish my thesis in time, and not getting the degree. Yes, one night may not mean much in terms of writing the thesis. But image if you had something like that hanging on your head, and you knew you were not going to have a nice job based on this Ph.D you were going to get (because he was going to switch to computer field after this Ph.D, so you know the job market was not good at all in his field). I would be able to understand my wife's worry, and concentrating on what I really need to do that night. After all (at least in my case) is Christmas really that important to a Chinese couple? We definitely have to show our love in whatever way possible, but what LZ was doing was really out of good intention, and to me her hu*****and was condemning her as using him as a stool, that's really way too much. Well, if LZ is really someone who keeps pushing her hu*****and around all the time, then I am wrong.
To be a good hu*****and, to love your wife dearly, you have to be first a man who is going to be able to support the family in whatever way possible. And if you have done your best in that regard, then the wife should understand you well even at your worst time.

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• Thanks. I think our ladies here are trying to be a good wife.Hah -houston1965- ♀ (0 bytes) () 05/04/2008 postreply 09:47:55

• wrong view point, in my humble opinion -kylieb- ♀ (720 bytes) () 05/04/2008 postreply 09:53:01

• (我老公说他论文写不下去，他导师有名的mean和push, 他快被逼疯了 -HenryLi- ♂ (368 bytes) () 05/04/2008 postreply 10:03:28

• 您说的完全没错，但关键是 -lankeke- ♀ (188 bytes) () 05/04/2008 postreply 10:12:15

• yes, like a cosy evening home, might be just what he needs -kylieb- ♀ (0 bytes) () 05/04/2008 postreply 10:13:31

• I think the husband was stressed out. A little break could help -houston1965- ♀ (0 bytes) () 05/04/2008 postreply 10:22:47

• (and that had to be taken care of before anything else) ...say w -kylieb- ♀ (503 bytes) () 05/04/2008 postreply 10:24:17

• correction！oops -kylieb- ♀ (218 bytes) () 05/04/2008 postreply 10:25:48

• I was just speaking what I would do if I was the husband. -HenryLi- ♂ (123 bytes) () 05/04/2008 postreply 10:39:01

• you obviously cared enough to carry on this conversation ;) -kylieb- ♀ (50 bytes) () 05/04/2008 postreply 10:49:36

• Hey, I just find out that you obviously know much more -HenryLi- ♂ (128 bytes) () 05/04/2008 postreply 10:59:15

• alright, guilty as charged :o) -kylieb- ♀ (0 bytes) () 05/04/2008 postreply 11:10:18

• 我认识不少人就这样的, 永远有借口指责别人. -冬里- ♀ (119 bytes) () 05/04/2008 postreply 11:16:16

• Exactly. -HenryLi- ♂ (0 bytes) () 05/04/2008 postreply 11:20:44

• 对的，我也觉得是这个样子 -lankeke- ♀ (450 bytes) () 05/04/2008 postreply 10:07:54

• 是这样，每个人都干好自己的那份工作；学会倾听别人 -二狗娘- ♀ (105 bytes) () 05/04/2008 postreply 10:16:24

• Men, your name is Mr. Right. -小小迷糊虫- ♀ (661 bytes) () 05/04/2008 postreply 21:53:36