make request that can be easily followed,

not like a order, especially those smart person, these think they're Mr. right, Mrs right, ask other people to be practical, not subjective and judgemental,  to make a request not a judgement.

   the safest request is to ask  help improve sth, so it does not look like an acusation. still trying!!!!

  smart people are very hard to deal with. Trust me. 2 smart people together, maybe very rich, but sure would be very miserable. I myself is too smart already. have a very low EQ myself