回复：他和我现在没有夫妻生活算physical incapacity吗？

(A)有關第一部份您需要諮詢紐約當地的律師,但是依據老貓對相關法令的了解依據DRL 140(d)的規定,您可以在五年之內提出.
If either spouse is incurably incapable of having sexual intercourse, the marriage may be annulled.

DRL 140(d)的詳細條文如下
(d) Physical incapacity.
An action to annul a marriage on the ground that one of the parties was physically incapable of entering into the marriage state may be maintained by the injured party against the party whose incapacity is alleged; or such an action may be maintained by the party who was incapable against the other party, provided the incapable party was unaware of the incapacity at the time of marriage, or if aware of such incapacity, did not know it was incurable. Such an action can be maintained only where an incapacity continues and is incurable, and must be commenced before five years have expired since the marriage.

然而問題在於您們的情況是您們實際上有sexual intercourse但是他的性癖好使您們無法繼續有sexual intercourse的行為,所以個人不認為法官會同意您的要求. 所以您仍然需要經過正常的程序, filing of a summons for "An action for a divorce".

第二個問題,建議您仔細看一下這個網頁中的資料

http://www.jdbar.com/statutes.html