不知道从哪里开始,因为从今年五月开始,我女儿的花滑屡受挫折,我一个自认坚韧的中年职业妇女都几乎抗不过去了,而她,只是一个10岁的孩子.
我不知道别的同龄孩子在做什么,经历什么,我的女儿在经历着这样的场景:(摘录自她教练发给我的短信): Seeing her upset is difficult for us all but today we should all be proud of her smiling through out after falling on her first element (something we all know she can usually do in her sleep) and sitting on camera and despite wanting to cry - holding herself together. 一个10岁的孩子,在比赛失利之后,连哭泣都不能够,因为她知道有现场直播,她必须保持风度,微笑。
她是7岁那年开始的,稍微有点晚(5-7岁是比较适合的年龄)。从身体条件来看,她有一双强健的腿,用她教练的话来说就是a pair of perfect skater's legs. 另外,她身体的柔韧性,平衡能力和空中控制都非常不错。就拿空中控制来讲,她在学校学了一周背越式跳高,第二周就代表学校田径队出去比赛了,大家都知道跳高是细高个子的天下,她一小肉丸子型的在跳高选手中非外滑稽,最后居然得了第二。事后我查了数据,她当天的成绩在同龄孩子中排在90%以上。当然她的缺点也很多,例如步伐粗糙,场上表现力等等(亏她还是学校drama 的主力)。好在总体而言,她算是个苗子,她的教练是这样说的:
I need you to understand that I believe in your child more than you do when it comes to her skating. I see a different picture than you. I see one that looks at potential, talent, dedication and above all the support of knowledgeable people around me that frequently comment that she has ‘something’.
However, all performance based things in life have consequences and we see so much pressure put on both children and adults. Her mental health and enjoyment has to be first always. Sport is full of mental health and eating disorders and this is something we must all remember.
写到这里,大家就会有个大约的概念,花滑是项多么美丽而苛刻的运动。我们是个花滑水平中等的地方,训练手段不知道比俄罗斯,韩国,中国,美国和加拿大这些世界领先的国家温和了多少倍。即便如此,摔的青一块紫一块是免不了的。只要不伤筋动骨就是阿弥陀佛。我女儿的教练在这方面观点相当鲜明,宁可少练,晚出成绩,甚至不出成绩,避免伤害是重中之重,尤其是小花滑选手。这大概也是我们放心的把女儿交给了她。当然我们也明白,我们的女儿永远也不会入俄罗斯姑娘一样,称霸世界赛场。
这是一个追梦的过程,她如痴如醉,我们就支持吧,只能这样。