She learned her behavior from you. And you learned it from your own parents. Family dysfunctions run from one generation to the next.
The way your mother treated you left a hole in your psyche. Every situation you are in, that hole screams "fill me up!" Your neediness for your daughter to agree with you (i.e., to validate you) is the problem, not that you and her have disagreements.
When she said "You can't touch me without consent", she learned that from her school. Not that there's anything wrong with it.
If her clothing is too tight and revealing, say: There is a fine line between beauty and indecency, make sure you know where it is. Each person may have different idea on where it should be, you should add a margin to be safe. Besides, if you care what others see of you, mind more what's in your head than what's on your skin.