那女孩无论法律上道德上都完全无需和前男友“商量”。极不成熟的想法，充满了老封建老保守的腐朽

Unmarried mom has the sole legal rights.  The presumed biological dad has to establish his paternity.  The presumed biological dad also had the burden to fight for custody if he wants it.

女孩完全无需和前男友“商量”。无论法律上还是道德上。