更吓人的，就发生在身边，就在今天——校长来信

刚才跟娃聊天，这位是猝死，原因不详。星期三下午校篮球队训练，突然倒地。送医院路上人就没了。

今天对于我们学校的家庭来说是一个艰难的一年，但是看到我们的学生和工作人员聚在一起支持是令人鼓舞的。星星XYZ是学校社区的特别成员，他触动了他遇到的每个人的生命，并将深受其害。请与我们一起保持家人的思想和祷告。

我们开始了沉默的一天，我们每一个第一批教师都给学生一个机会来处理他们的感受和反应。来自全区各地的辅导员在礼堂里与需要额外支持的学生一起工作。在未来的日子里，我们会继续关注学生，只要有需要，我们会提供协助。

像星星这样的突然和创伤性的死亡给表面带来许多感觉，我们想向你保证，我们在这里支持我们所有的学生，不管他们为什么受伤。当我们对同学，学生和朋友的损失感到悲伤时，我们也提醒我们其他人从我们那里过来。

请在家里和你的青少年谈话，不要害怕与他们分享你的感受，因为你提供安心和舒适。一些年轻人，特别是那些最近经历过创伤性生活的年轻人，可能会特别不高兴，有很多的感受。这些反应是完全正常的，通常不会持续很长时间。

寻找行为变化很重要，这可能表明您的儿子或女儿需要额外的支持。专家建议您的孩子观看以下警告标志：过度恐惧黑暗，分离或孤独;紧贴父母;害怕陌生人;担心;不成熟行为增加;不想上学;饮食或睡眠模式的变化;增加侵略行为或害羞;持续恶梦;头痛或其他身体不适。

如果您觉得您的小孩有任何这些或其他问题，请与他或她的辅导员或儿科医生谈话，以便我们能够一起协助我们的学生。感谢您与家人一起工作，并得到您的支持和鼓励。一如往常，请随时致电381-3546致电我的问题或疑虑。

AI翻译，原文在下面

Today was a difficult one for ourschool family, but it was inspiring to see our students and staff come together to support each other. Star XYZ was a special member of the school community who touched the lives of everyone he met and will be deeply missed. Please join us in keeping his family close in thought and prayer.

We began our day with a moment of silence, and each of our first block teachers gave students an opportunity to process their feelings and reactions. Counselors from throughout the district worked in the auditorium with students who needed additional support. We’ll continue to be watchful of our students in the days ahead and will provide assistance as long as it is needed.

A sudden and traumatic death like Star’s brings many feelings to the surface and we want to assure you that we are here to support all of our students, regardless of why they are hurting. As we grieve the loss of our classmate, student and friend, we are reminded of others taken from us too soon.

Please talk with your teen at home and do not be afraid to share your feelings with them as you offer reassurance and comfort.  Some young people, especially those who have recently experienced a traumatic life event, may be especially upset and have lots of feelings to talk about. These reactions are completely normal and usually will not last long.

It is important to look for changes in behavior that may signal that your son or daughter needs additional support.  Experts recommend watching your child for the following warning signs: excessive fear of darkness, separation, or being alone; clinging to parents; fear of strangers; worry; increase in immature behaviors; not wanting to go to school; changes in eating or sleeping patterns; increase in either aggressive behavior or shyness; persistent nightmares; headaches or other physical complaints.

If you feel your child is having any of these or other problems, please talk with his or her counselor or pediatrician so we can work together to help our students. Thank you for the privilege of working with your family and for your support and encouragement.  As always, please don’t hesitate to call me at 381-3546 with questions or concerns.



化名，但整个事件是真实的

所有跟帖： 

• Survival of high school is not easy -mb7568- ♂ (0 bytes) () 04/28/2017 postreply 09:47:55

• 觉得这个电视剧导演很心理阴暗，居然有两集强奸场面 -keessa- ♀ (20 bytes) () 04/28/2017 postreply 10:44:14

• 我儿子学校校长特意写信让家长不要让孩子看这个片子 -moonwhite- ♀ (47 bytes) () 04/28/2017 postreply 10:22:21

• 除了男主角还有点演技，其他的无非是爬梯酗酒，写着写着作业就上床了 -keessa- ♀ (0 bytes) () 04/28/2017 postreply 10:26:28

• 哪里可以看呀？ -newca- ♀ (0 bytes) () 05/01/2017 postreply 06:38:51

• 很多时候想想家长孩子都不容易，特别是在高压学校里。 -Rockeymountain- ♀ (0 bytes) () 04/28/2017 postreply 10:00:42

• 一看就是新生家长，我们校长一发信就可能没有好事情，慢慢就习惯了，15-24岁，自杀是第三大死亡原因 -Duckegg- ♂ (0 bytes) () 04/28/2017 postreply 10:00:49

• 俺村 -skyport- ♂ (267 bytes) () 04/28/2017 postreply 10:01:15

• 赞一个二娃，情商高，还能劝导别人 -cutedolphin- ♂ (0 bytes) () 04/28/2017 postreply 10:13:42

• 谢谢。初中就是同校同年级，感觉这种事就发生在身边 -skyport- ♂ (0 bytes) () 04/28/2017 postreply 10:16:27

• 你们那旮瘩吓人呢。 -Rockeymountain- ♀ (0 bytes) () 04/28/2017 postreply 10:24:24

• 俺村家长对孩子的期望超高 -skyport- ♂ (59 bytes) () 04/28/2017 postreply 10:28:30

• 家长这么逼孩子，以后就可以像楼下的漫画一样可劲儿比了。哈哈哈。 -Rockeymountain- ♀ (0 bytes) () 04/28/2017 postreply 10:37:16

• That one is so funny! haha -twoboys_mom- ♀ (0 bytes) () 04/28/2017 postreply 10:38:18

• 应该也不能全归咎于Asian Parents -10203040- ♀ (87 bytes) () 04/28/2017 postreply 10:45:25

• 俺村白人家长也类似。 -skyport- ♂ (0 bytes) () 04/28/2017 postreply 10:50:42

• 这年龄的问题其实深藏原因都和家庭有关 -Narnar- ♀ (0 bytes) () 04/28/2017 postreply 10:03:47

• 孩子出现问题第一时间能让父母知道的不会有这样的事，让孩子相信父母很重要。 -小团圆- ♀ (0 bytes) () 04/28/2017 postreply 10:09:04

• 每次看到这种消息心里都堵的难受。 -sherryli88- ♀ (0 bytes) () 04/28/2017 postreply 10:10:14

• 我們學區發信不讓孩子看 13 reasons why . 負能量，怕小孩學 -sihuanian- ♀ (0 bytes) () 04/28/2017 postreply 10:10:20

• 同意。原著和电视剧都比较做作矫情，并没有对自杀和bully有深刻认识 -keessa- ♀ (44 bytes) () 04/28/2017 postreply 10:23:26

• 我们学校上个月有个10年级华裔女孩自杀未遂，现每周看心理医生 -太爱北京了- ♀ (148 bytes) () 04/28/2017 postreply 14:17:10

• 13reasons这个片家长可看，防患于未然，孩子不可看，负能量，阴暗。 -soldanella- ♀ (0 bytes) () 04/29/2017 postreply 05:54:27

• 谁翻译的？-- deeply missed 是“深受其害”？ -望山跑死马- ♀ (0 bytes) () 04/29/2017 postreply 09:34:11