无性的婚姻是不道德的婚姻，那么解决的办法那到有道德的和

不道德的选择：

看了你的贴， 觉得他是gay的可能性不大。
那么他这种情况主要有 2 个可能， 1 个是男人在与一个女人有过性生活一段时间后， 失去了新鲜感。 如果你老公是这种情况的话， 你应该能感觉到他对别的女人有兴趣。 第 2 个可能性是你老公本身的 sex drive 还低， 他没什么 libido， 这是他的基本生理状态造成的， 就是与他的雄激素水平有关 （随便提一下， 女性的性欲也是由女性体内的雄激素来 maintain 的）。

你如果没有正常的性生活来给你的正常的性欲状态 (just my assumption, that means you are not abnormally high in your sex drive) 找出路的话， 后果会是相当严重的。


道德的选择： Do it by yourself (masturbation). Studies have showed that many women can reach organism more easily with masturbation than sexual intercourse even they have a normal sexual relationship with a man. You have to learn to enjoy sex with this alternative method.


介于道德的和不道德之间的选择： Still do it by yourself, but with a different form, such as cybersex, etc.

不道德的选择: Find someone you like and he also like you, and do it with that guy.


My sincere sympathy for you being caught up in this "great", but "unhuman" marriage. But there are still many ways you can enjoy what you should have been enjoying for all the time.